You were there for her. You were there on her terms, not yours. Give the woman what she needs, her mother maybe mentally gone.
In this moment it is not about you, help her. Chances are she is not in her right mind. You play the role of strong supporting husband. In regards to her mother situation do what ever your wife needs. Forget about whats fair.
I would not count on it but through your actions and behavior she could look at you in a different light. It may only be for a second but who knows. Don't help her to emotional manipulate her, do it because it's the right thing to do.
It will be a win (good karma) and it could be a win win.
