When he reaches out to you and does things w/you like a rational individual, you begin to let your guard down and forget that he's still evolving. Your h has a ways to go before he's completely out of the tunnel and feels comfortable in his own skin. He's going to have ups and downs and slip down the slippery slope quite a few times before it's over with. What do you do? Detach, keep your expectations at zero at all times. If he does something nice, let him know it, but don't expect him to be 100% all of the time...it's not going to happen for quite a while.
It's one step forward, two steps back until they are fully integrated and healed.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
