Hi Ha Who, sorry you guys had a tough day. My reading is - are you expecting him to be husband and Dad, when he is still having days where processing is taking place. If you are expecting him to step up to the plate, then feeling hostile when he isn't, doesn't that just drive a little wedge in again.

Perhaps you still need to be prepared to detach when things like this come up. Be perfectly prepared to go off, make your own plans, enjoy yourselves. And just expect this will happen sometimes. I think your H (and you!!) have been doing really well. But there will always be those tough days. And perhaps those are ones to accept and leave him be without ill feeling.

It sounds a little to me as though you still have expectations at moments where he doesn't really have the stuff to give perhaps?

Just my 0.2pence anyway....and I hope tomorrow is a better day for you guys smile

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