Lorelai: My waking life

[Lorelai]

Hello, DBers. Long time, no talk! Hope everyone has been doing OK. I've been checking in on the threads now and then, but work and the kids have had me very busy. The girls and I also just got over being sick last week--my oldest only got to attend the first two days of kindergarten before she came down with a fever, chills etc., then my 2-year-old started having symptoms, and I came home from work extremely ill. We all went to the Dr. last Friday and found out it was strep (second time in a month for me), so we've spent the past week taking our antibiotics (not fun for little kids) and getting ourselves back into our school/work/daycare routines.

STBX started a new job on Friday. I'm not sure what it means, but at least he won't be working so much with his married OW/boss, who I'm still not sure if he got physical with, but it really doesn't matter anymore.

Couple of frustrations with the new job--one of the conflicts in our marriage was that he kept sticking it out with a start-up that was always on the verge of going out of business, and he was working 24 hours a day seven days a week. While trying to be considerate of his feelings, I did encourage him to look elsewhere, and pointed out we never had any time together as a family or as a couple as long as he was working such crazy hours. He refused to find another job or make any real effort to do so. Now he's working a more traditional 9-5 office job, but our marriage is over...

We also don't have insurance until the insurance kicks in at his new job. I am glad at least that he agreed to keep me on his insurance until the divorce is final. But when he came to get the kids yesterday, I explained to him that some of the liquid antibiotics had spilled and that the pediatrician was calling in a prescription for more so the kids could finish their course (very important!). He rolled his eyes and was like "Ugh. How much is this going to cost?" And yeah, I lost it, and asked why he wouldn't be on top of the whole insurance thing (he's not sure what the status is of our insurance officially). He said "You always worry about that stuff. I know it's an issue for you!"

Yeah, I have had issues in the past with his insurance--like when I was eight months pregnant with our second child and went to the OB to find out we didn't have the same insurance anymore, because his company had switched and he didn't bother telling me...

The good news is it sounds like his new company's insurance is better, so I'll be able to resume treatment at least temporarily with my former IC who was helping me work through a lot of issues with the breakup of my M before she was no longer able to accept the crappy insurance from STBX's old company...

Just trying to look at the bright side of things... I still have a lot of work to do DB-wise, not to save my M, but myself and hopefully have a healthier co-parenting relationship with STBX.

One more thing--this is one of the first weekends in a long time STBX (who's living at his mom's) has taken the kids overnight, and apparently you CAN catch up on sleep! I need to get caught up on a ton of cleaning from everyone being sick and the house becoming chaotic, but I've also been sleeping a TON, and LOVING it. I haven't been able to enjoy sleep like this in FOREVER!