Walkaway Wife - Ended in D

[dwh15]

Does a WW sometimes have regrets and come back to the LBH? Yes, sometimes. Unfortunately, I don't believe it happens all that often. And if/when they do, it's often out of fear of the unknown, not necessarily because they are remorseful or want to be with LBH again. Your situation progressed very rapidly, probably due to having no children, so a D can be finalized much faster.

It's up to you as to how long you decide to keep the door open. TBH, with you being so young, no children, and a relatively new M, I would probably recommend that you simply assume it's over and move on. I hate to even suggest it, as I really do hate D, but I'm worried you may be setting yourself up for a lot of pain otherwise.

Your XW cheated on you after only 4 years of M - that's not a good sign. Women have A's for a lot of reasons, but at the core, it indicates some serious internal mental/emotional issues which would take a lot of work to resolve. And that's assuming she ever gets to a point where she realizes that the problems are with her, and is willing to do the work; many never get there.

On top of that, you have to ask yourself if you could every truly forgive your XW and trust her again. The A will always be part of your history now. Trust can slowly be rebuilt, but it takes a long time and a lot of work from both parties. I don't know. I just think with you being so young, you may be better off letting go and finding someone who will love you and treat you with the respect you deserve. I know it's hard to give up the dreams you had of being together and what your future was going to look like.

It's still early, so you may want to take a few months and see how things play out. But I would set a time limit on it, like 6 months, etc. Then commit to moving on. Other than going dark, not sure what other strategies to suggest, but read up on all the homework from Cadet and post questions. Whatever you decide, I really do hope things turn out for you.