Good Morning Lost, Again I think you are being to hard on your self as a mindset.
I think your IC my be right. Think of the stress your under, A man (your husband) may completely and possibly change you and your children's lives. This change may permanently affect the kids and you. This is not the behavior of the man you married.
Are you wiser then a emotionally removed mental health professional?
Assume IC is correct, wheres the harm in that. The stress will corrode all aspects of your life, waking and sleeping. You should find an outlet, exercise, meditation, a talking help group, a distraction, ect ect.
I go twice a week to a meditation class. I get out by myself, its my thing and nobody else's in the family. What we do there is great for my head, consider meditation.
