Asitis thank you for your post. I have read many of your posts to others on this board. Your advice contains so much thought and experience.
I agree with you and have read that forgiveness is really for me and not for the other person. I believe my H could care less if I forgive him or not and has certainly never asked for forgiveness. I don't think he thinks there is any reason to ask for it. Thus, where we are today- not together. So I guess when you can get to that place of forgiveness it will probably be easier for you to move forward with your life even if it means moving forward alone.
V,
thank you. I am trying to get to that place where I set reasonable boundaries, detach and allow my H to be who he is and allow him to have his own relationship with his higher power. It has been hard. And perhaps it's really my relationship with my higher power that needs to be developed and it's me who has to ask for forgiveness. I'm still struggling with that.
I have really been struggling and feeling lost these past few weeks. Just when I thought I was starting to feel like I was getting stronger, I have a relapse. I guess like everyone else it's a process.
I know I have a lot to learn and reading others stories certainly shows me I am not alone and not totally at fault. still swimming through my own story trying to sort out my responsibility for what happened.
Thank you both again for sharing your thoughts with me.
