H has started an affair 2

[Painter]

Hi Sotto,

I haven't said or done anything yet.

However, H was late AGAIN this morning. This time he initiated the conversation about how this is not working and asked me what we should do. I said he could hire a babysitter but it's probably not realistic considering the money he has been giving me, or I could ask in-laws. He didn't like the idea of in-laws. So I asked him what he thinks. He didn't have an answer, but told me he really didn't want to be here (at home)

Since we didn't have too much time to talk, that was it. But H didn't want to live here anymore, that much is clear.

I really need to figure out how, finance and childcare if we do separate. I'm not sure if H has any concrete idea on how he can proceed. I'm not sure anymore if H even wants to be with the kids. Is he thinking he can just take off with no responsibility for kids? I really don't know this person right now...

So if H - the children's father - doesn't want to take care of them anymore, he's changing what you have been doing all along? That is not your problem. If he doesn't want to be there, he has to find another solution. You made a suggestion, now it's up to him.

Do you know where he is staying? Maybe drop the kids off there one morning when he's not there on time?