Jim0987 #15 - Further on up the road

[jim0987]

Hi All,

So I got in at 0330 last night. it was a good night if full of melodrama.

This morning I received the draft divorce papers through the post. They say much what I expected them to say whilst at the same time I fundamentally disagree with much of the content. I could go point by point dismissing almost everything as either completely misinterpreted or pure fabrication - But that does noone any good and even if it is complete lies it still what she believes.

Mostly it is about how she felt isolated and unsupported and that I lacked empathy. Interestingly though she has used my semi-confronting her about OM1 a couple of days after i found out about him as an the example of my aggressive behaviour.

I will be proceeding on the basis that I dont agree but i'm not contesting. part of me wants to make sure i reference her adultery but thats my ego talking.

I did send her a text message saying I had received the papers. Probably wrongly I also said

'..it saddens me both to think you felt the way you have described and also just how far apart our perceptions and interpretations of different events were. I will always believe that had we been able to communicate better about how we felt then our differences were perfectly resolvable'

i then went on to say i want to conclude things swiftly.

possible a mistake and I expect she will view it negatively. She and OM1 will probably have a good laugh at my expense about how pathetic it makes me or how i 'still don't get it', but at the same time its true.....well at least from my perspective.