New - Desperate & Confused, H won't end affair

[Uphill]

I had the same feelings early on. I questioned the system and the people here. I wasn't trying to be mean but I wanted to know I was chasing the best possible way to move forward with life. I forget who it was, but I got a very logical response. I was told that many of the people here are currently trying to help others with what they have learned works or doesn't work. Most people who end up reconciling are putting thier focus on thier relationship, not on a forum... Perfect example is our boy squiggy. He was here daily, for months. His W came and wanted to work on thier M. He started checking in less frequently, giving us all updates and support. Even some hope. As far as I've seen, he hasn't been on in at least 2 or 3 weeks now. I see that as positive! Not that I don't want to hear about how good it is going, because I have to assume he is spending every waking minute working with his wife to build their relationship.