New - Desperate & Confused, H won't end affair

[Zues126]

I feel like my battle is less about the OW and more about showing him that our marriage could be SO much better.

Lisa -

Your goal is not to show him that you are the prize.

Your goal is to BE the prize.

Agree with Azz again. Azz, I'm not sure where you came from, but I like the cut of your jib.

Lisa, you're getting a lot of advice. I think a good litmus test is the intent. If it's advice about how you can take care of yourself, detach, protect yourself, GAL, grow, and become a better stronger person, one that grieves and can eventually find peace of mind...then I'm all for it. If it's about trying to do things to send a message to WAH, wake him up, or trying to impact his decisions...then I think it's completely the wrong direction.

I'm running the risk of repeating myself so I'm going to lead by example. I'm not going to try to control YOU any further today, I'll go and GAL and enjoy my weekend. Take care!