- Your H could be going through all sorts of issues which is what is causing this, not least if your youngest are 17 that the end is in sight for the restrictions that come with parenting.
I think so. It is like he doesn't want to be a parent anymore. He just wants to show up for the special occasions - birthdays and holidays. He wants to keep everything light like nothing has happened
- It is possible that there is no affair, contact doesn't necessarily mean there is but equally denials count for nothing. My XW only admitted her R with OM1 in May (ish) but they have been involved in different ways since BD at the latest (she still denies it was/is an affair.) Whether there is or not, worrying about it only does you harm and unless he decides he wants to come back, does it matter? I know that might sound a little cold but I've spent so long trying to get my head round her 'affair' and my hurt at this but all I've done is prolong my sense of injustice and therefore my pain.
The biggest thing that has helped me has been about how I, and only I, am responsible for my feelings including whether I feel hurt or slighted
You are so right on this one. I know that I am prolonging my own pain and my need for truth and honest is contributing to that. I just keep repeating .. " Why can't he just tell the truth ?"
