at the moment - no, there aren't times I feel I can talk to him. We have brief, polite conversations about the kids or practical things - or he criticises something I've done or not done. That is about it.
BUT I think this is an issue for further on down the road - and if he does have compulsive problems, they are his to deal with (and I will support him if I can). Generally, I know he doesn't think he has 'preferences' - that some things aren't really a matter of right or wrong, but just individual likes and dislikes. He's said before it isn't a matter of perspective, it is a case of him being right and me being wrong. Down that road madness lies. He can think he's right if he wants to, and sulk about it if I disagree - that is okay with me for the time being.
I think the thing for now, is to work on the goals I set out.
I think he's noticing something's up. A couple of times today he's asked me if there is a problem, or if I am displeased with something. I am CERTAIN that my attitude is okay - I've been warm and friendly and appreciative. But I'm also making sure I don't pursue him at all. I believe he's more used to me making bids for his attention and I am just not doing that. He can come to me if he wants to, and if he doesn't, well, I can see how I feel and make that decision later.
