Do not say "Adults don't tell other adults how to hang towels." That may come off as being rude.

The second approach is much better. "I can see we have different preferences on this."

Are there ever times when you feel like you can talk to him. Are there times when he just seems happy, relaxed, and willing to be open with you. Maybe this would be a time to bring up the OCD stuff. I would not harp on it though. You don't want to switch his good mood when you rarely see it.

Honestly, I think a professional would be more suited to address this issue. I think it is out of my league. Have you thought about going to an IC on your own to discuss this issue.

I think I can give you my perspective on how I felt about things but figuring out how to fix him may be tough. I would hate to trouble shoot your marriage when a professional may know what to do right away.

Last edited by WhyUs; 09/12/15 12:28 PM.
Me: 30's W: 30's M: 12yrs
EA: Started 3/2015
MC Started: 4/2015
She moved out and served 6/2015
PA: Confirmed 10/5/2015
2 young kids

"If you do not stand for something you will fall for anything."