I'm now in panic mode. I am certain that my freak out last night and setting a boundary today drove him off for good. I've been reading the boards all day, and everything seems so hopeless. But he just wouldn't leave me alone about divorce...I haven't even wrapped my mind around the fact that life as I knew it was over. The constant criticism has me feeling like I'm just a failure. There were truth nuggets in his tirades. I don't know what to do.
Judy, you really need to try and calm down a bit. I know this is all fresh and new, but being overly emotional is not going to help your cause. Your boundary was for you and I believe it was appropriate. You did not kick him out of the house. He is having As and wants D, so why should he be in your MRB?
Your H is just doing a bit of tantruming and projecting right now. His anger is really at himself, though he might not realize it. Deep down he likely knows what he is doing is wrong and your kicking him out of MRB just reinforced that guilt even though he won't admit it. Your H was already on the road to file for D and having A, so nothing you did yesterday put him over the edge. You need to let him be, work on you, GAL, and start following Sandi's rules ASAP. Do you have some friends you can make plans with this weekend and next week? You need to get busy with activities so that you are not so focused on your H. Believe me, it will help heaps. You are in the worst part BD right now. Things will slowly start to get better for you if you focus on you.
Last edited by BT13; 09/11/1511:44 PM.
Me: 42 H: 40 M: 12 H moved out - 8/2015 I filed - 8/2015
