Lisa- Like others here - I just have a quick minute - but boy, do parts of your story sound familiar, right down to his responding. "No. I don't know" when you asked if he was leaving. I got the exact same words.
As to this....
Originally Posted By: Lisa65
What am I to do with that? Just allow my husband to date while he figures things out?
I agree with the posters who are advising you that you don't need to make any decisions right now - however I would emphasize to you (and you should emphasize to your husband) that it is you who has some hard thinking to do.
You are reeling right now - your world has fallen apart. You need to take some time and decide what you are willing to tolerate. Everyone on this board has an interest in saving their marriage and that is commendable. However - your husband has had multiple dalliances throughout your married life and now one of them has cost him his livelihood and put your family in a precarious situation. That's a lot.
You say you think your marriage is salvageable. That's great. Truly. But he's not in the same place that you are right now. And right now, you need to focus on what is best for you and for your children.
I always advise people in your situation to at least seek legal counsel to make sure they are protected. Right now, your husband is dishonest and does not have your best interests at heart.
