I kept asking my husband for space and time to wrap my mind around all the changes...he honored neither request. I decided I just couldn't deal with not being able to have time to grieve or move on, and the shocks just kept coming....not just one OW, but several!
I finally lost it last night and yelled at him, I admit to some name calling. He finally left me alone. Today, I decide I'm no longer going to be a doormat. I have no interest in letting him walk all over me while he actively pursues his new life. Told him I was moving his things out of the master bedroom. That is when I got the short but sweet "I'm gone" text. 20 years, just like that.
I've been crying a lot today - but at least I finally have privacy to do it in. He may not be back....I decided that I will handle that. Much better than the emotional torture he's been putting me through.
This is your choice, but if you think you will be just fine with or without him, tell him you have no interest in being in an open marriage. Make him decide. Best advice I got. :-)
