Oh Judy, my heart breaks for you, too. I'm truly sorry. Did he say "I'm gone" in response to your moving his things out of the bedroom?
I have been absolutely stunned by the realization that my husband is not the man I thought he was. In fairness, I still think he is a good person deep down, but I had put him on a pedestal in so many ways. He is a flawed human being like all of us. I trusted him, and I believed in him, no questions asked. I believed so deeply in him that even in the face of very fishy sounding situations, I defended him, wholeheartedly believing that his character would simply never allow him to cheat. I forgot that he was a man and that he was human.
I am very, very sorry for anyone whose spouse adds being a total jerk on top of mountain of pain. I know that my husband can sometimes lash out very angrily, but up until recently I would think him completely incapable of being vindictive or cruel. I still somewhat believe that, but I will never again say never about anything. There are so many things I have learned that I wouldn't have thought possible in a million years. So I am going to vow to be smarter and less blindly trusting than I used to be.
