Ok, no sex since Memorial Day. No physical contact at all until after she filed. Now it is a hug every other time we talk. I don't know where the girl I married went!
Today, at the lawyer, I asked again if this is what she wants. She said yes, but couldn't explain other than "I haven't been happy for a long time, and neither have you". BS! We have had a lot of fun together, and I brought up a few things in the lawyers office. I gave her my wedding ring, told her that she can stop this at any point. Told her that one day, she will regret all this, and I pray its not too late.
I asked why she was being more friendly and 'normal' now, and she said that she feels like we can still talk fine. I told her that I can't because I feel that I am being mislead. I am done chasing her. She needs to be woken up! This is going to hurt everyone, and she can't see it. Just said that she wanted everyone to be happy. Even started crying in the lawyers, saying she didn't want me to feel screwed over.
I am sure that I made a dozen mistakes here, what do I do now? I don't want my family broken up, and today was another wake up call for me.
Advice on how to proceed?
I hope you learned a valuable lesson here today - there is nothing that you can SAY that's going to help you right now. All this did was make her hurt you again. Did you think she was going to say "no. I DONT want this. You're right!"
So, it's time to get back to DBing. Start by reading the 37 rules. Then implement them. You've read the book, right?
