We are on the brink

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SJ,

Ok. Your husband definitely has compulsive issues if you ask me. I have been your husband. Listening to you talk about it is enlightening to me. I can pretty much guarantee your husband thinks you are trying to be disrespectful or just do not care enough about him. However, I am not sure the way to handle it is meeting his every demand. (Maybe it is to get him back to the table, I'm not sure.)

I am not sure what would have made the light bulb go off for me. I was talking to the psychologist after BD before I realized I had compulsive tendencies. Only now, after reading your sitch am I beginning to understand the real impact of my behavior. I am learning as I am typing.

I wonder if there are books out there addressing this issue. I would imagine it is a fairly common issue in marriages that an LMFT would have suggestions for--don't think your husband is up for that though.

I am going to try doing some more thinking about it. I sure wish I could talk to my WW and let her know I am figuring things out.