Oh, boy. Thought my H was acting irrational. I know how surprising it is too find out about A, especially when your H was cheated on. Exactly my case as well. I would have never have thought it would be something he would do. So, was this all prompted by a fight or something? Has your H specified what he has been unhappy about in your M with you? You need to spend some reflecting on what changes you need to focus on for you.
I know you are in a bit of a frantic time right now, but you do not need to let your H control the situation. If he wants to freak out he can. Let him deal with getting the paper work for D to file. He is the one that wants to D. Take the time you need to regroup. You don't need to respond to every email or text.
Dif us right. You need to know and realze quickly that there is no sense trying to rationalize with your H. I still find myself trying to do this sometimes just because it is impossible not to with some of the $h!7 comes out of their mouth. My H refused to move out too and said he could have whoever he wanted in our home, including OW. He sees absolutely nothing wrong with what he did. This is the same person who was still telling me he loved me and that he couldn't of gotten where he is without me the month before BD. Now I did not support him at all and our entire M was passionless and horrible. You cannot fix what you did not break.
Good for you for moving his things out. You need some space. I bagged up my H's things and put in garage. He was livid as well. My H did not want me to use L either, but I was not going to listen to that with the way he was acting. Definitely find L as soon as you can.
Keep strong and keep posting. It would be good to have more details on your am history.
Last edited by BT13; 09/11/1507:38 PM.
Me: 42 H: 40 M: 12 H moved out - 8/2015 I filed - 8/2015
