Look at the positive, Missmeg! H didn't contact you all day, BUT he made sure he texted you at night and let you know why. Although it wasn't a lovey-dovey message, he was showing care for you. That's a good thing! We need all the good things we can get right now. We need to be "glass half full" people for our own mental health! (Grandma's voice in head right now saying, "Count your many blessings!").
Funny thing; as much as I would love to have the fairy-tale R and am trying to accept the good of my circumstances, last night I figured out H has the same struggle. I have been down at times lately & he wants me to be all happy and lovey. We discussed that he shouldn't take it personally & it was nothing against him. It was still hard for him to accept, but he did try. It made me feel better to think we had a common thread as to our respective emotions and desires. Don't know if that made any sense or not!
I'm hoping for you that your H might just be working through some difficult things right now. That would be great! Mine is avoiding any self-work by either getting to busy at the shop, taking on too much, or spending all his time with me! Men can be wussies in avoiding painful things! I have to step back and not be one of his excuses to avoid this, although for some selfishness on my part... if he doesn't go through what he needs to go through, him coming home will take much longer if that is to happen!
Then I think about how much pain I was in and how much I wanted him to change while we were together, so I can look forward to any progress from him in his changes while I'm making the ones I need to make. YES, it does stink that we can't do that TOGETHER! Maybe this is God granting me more patience... UGH! LOL
It sounds like you had a great GAL day! Stay strong & keep going! May God grant us both patience... but not "too much"!
Me:46 H:42 T:7 M:5 MD(H SD):24 MS(H SS):19 MS(H SS):13 Separated on & off most of '15 WAH last left 8/15 WAH changed locks & Bank account of joint business 8/15
