Today Mr. Brave textures me to see if I was ok. I answered honestly, "no." Then he says he's sorry, didn't mean to hurt me. Since I had nothing nice to say to that, I didn't reply. I am angrily detaching....hoping to move it to lovingly detached soon.
I get that youre hurting. We all understand that. But you dont want him to see that. By admitting that you arent ok, it lets him know the power that he has over yeah. You arent going to get him to change his mind out of pity.
Id recommend you watch the TED talk by Amy Huddy about body language. The message is so good - fake it until you make it. By saying that you are "OK", you can BECOME "OK".
As for moving his stuff out, I wouldnt hesitate to do it. HE is not paying for anything...you as a marital unit are paying for everything. It is just as much yours as his. I believe that by filing for D and chasing OW, he is giving up his right to be in the marital BR. I would state that you are unwilling to live in an open M --- read the boundary thread for a lot more great info!
