I understand about the it takes two to crumble a M, but she tried for years to get me to talk to her and spend time with her. I can see that now that I am out of my fog, but now she is buried in hers.
Would you get mad at a carpenter that built a chitty house if he had no nails? You didnt have the tools you needed to build a healthy M. Thats what this is about...learning for the future.
Originally Posted By: Sorgan
She says her love for me died over the years as I check out on my xbox. I just have such a hard time with the thought that me ignoring her completely will do anything to help my M. I know the techniques here are for me mainly, not my M. I just have such a hard time with them because all I want is to fix this, and that is out if my hands now.
Unfortunately, there isnt anything to fix. Except for you. You arent getting out of the house to repair your marriage. Youre going out to repair the damage youve done to you. Im sure you can see the difference between sitting and playing xbox and going out to a meetup group to meet new friends.
This is going to be counterintuitive. But its what works.
