I usually take the to the park every other day now. Not as much this week. I havent done shopping or anything much in those lines with them, but we have gotten out of the house just the 5 of us.
Thats a start. Time to start showing that you can go to more difficult places. The grocery store. Out to dinner. To the library. Stuff like that.
Originally Posted By: Sorgan
It cant get worse than that to me. I am still in a bit of denial that it won't happen, but that is the worst it could get.
She has said she was unhappy for probably about the last two years. I just never listened or thought she was mad because we were fighting. The OM has only been in the picture for about a month, but she considers herself his gf and our M is already over.[/qupte] Its easy for her to rewrite history. And common. Dont beat yourself up over it. Read the LBH threads by Sandi2.
[quote=Sorgan]Honestly, my biggest regret will be that it feels like I have done this to myself and now that I am trying full force to be a good husband I am only succeeding in pushing her away and making her more angry. I know Im early on in the whole thing, but it still feels like everything I do matter and could be the difference between D and R.
A few things:
1) You didnt do this by yourself. It takes 2 people to bring down a marriage. Figure out your part and clean it up. Learn from the mistakes you made and figure out how to correct those things about yourself.
2) STOP trying to be a great husband. Youve been fired as a hasband. Be a great dad, a great man, a great person. But your job is no longer as husband.
3) Everything you do DOES make a difference. But not to HER. It does for your growth. It does for your R with your kids. But she is not looking to you to be her husband anymore, so you dont need to be. Anything you do as a "husband" will just add to her resentment.
Lets be clear. There is nothing you can say or do today that will snap her out of her fog. You are in this for the long haul, Sorgan.
