I understand youre hurting. But also realize that she may be hurting too. Whatever it was, she was in some kind of relationship with OM, and she needs some time and space to be able to end that and put it to bed. By being too demanding and putting too much pressure on her, you can defeat your own goals.
I think thats why everyone is suggesting that you two get help going through this. Piecing things back together is (from what I understand) extremely difficult as there is a lot of hurt and unresolved emotions that need to be worked through.
