Where do I go from here? pt. 2

[beckyb]

An update. After talking with lawyer and DB coach I decided to go ahead and submit my financial forms to the court. I gave them to the lawyer last month we just hadn't turned them in. Next step is up to H. DB coach said, like many others, it's ok to go at my own pace. I am also going to be more vocal and specific about what H needs to get out of the house and what I need to happen with bank accounts.

DB coach helped me understand that the very small positive signs I thought I saw did happen, even if OW has moved here. He also said it's interesting that he actually called me to talk about the divorce rather than text. H never calls about anything. Coach also said, like others have said, if OW has moved here it might not be as rosy as they thought.

DB coach always tells me to make decisions as if H was already out of the picture. He said if H comes back to his old self we might have a chance to reconnect. I believe that is a very, very small chance.

I am working on finding a balance between moving on in a respectful way and leaving the door open if things should ever change.