I feel like we are closer now than we have been since May, when things were feeling so much better. She started kissing me and initiating sex, then it's like a switch flipped. Unsure what I should be doing now. I just rented a house, and haven't moved in yet. Just bought DR, have started on it.
You are being deceived. You are not getting closer. She's just acting nice and initiating sex (b/c you have agreed to what she wants, and it turns her on), You misread her actions and it makes you feel better & closer to her. Yes, she wants you as a friend, with benefits. However, she wants her freedom, also.
Finish reading DR immediately. Keep posting.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!