Hi Overcom, look at your goal - detach, detach, detach....then look at your subsequent post.

Here's the thing. You don't get to control him. He is choosing to go to her house every night. He's infatuated with her just now....there is not much you can do about that.

But you can do lots about you. And you being all desparate and scared is the least likely thing to save your R.

Now, what is, is just now. Let's talk about how you can move towards your goal of detaching, and how you can reclaim former Overcom, who was happier in herself and can be so regardless of what H is doing.

Have you read codependent no more? Your last post made me wonder if this would be helpful?

(((Overcom)))

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus