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I don't know anything about Discernment Therapy other than what I just saw on their website. I'd want someone who practices marriage and family therapy who has a systems theory or attachment theory (sometimes they'll say emotionally-focused therapy) orientation if possible (most LMFTs are trained in systems theory). And, definitely who is pro-marriage while understanding that some marriages can't be repaired.

But if he is really willing. I don't see why not. If he has already made up his mind & just wants you to work on moving on, then it's not the time.

Yes, the person I found is very pro marriage and her goal is always to save it. She also practices emotional based therapy. Received TM on Tuesday from H asking what I hope to get out of it and what he is going gain by it. I just responded saying that I want it to be about us and not me vs him. That it does not make sense to give up on a 13 yr M without trying to go speak with someone who can tell us different paths forward based on their experience. I also said that emotions have been high on both ends and that I don't think that is a good place to be making such life altering decisions and I was not confident in proceeding with D. I don't want to have regrets or what ifs down the road. Said I thought he would gain the same out of it. Shared the link with him to that website. Have not heard back yet.