Midlife Crisis and Emotional Affair

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sometimes having no contact might spur his curiosity;
On the board they say GAL..get a life..do things for you
take up a new interest
make plans with a friend
They sometimes wonder what you are doing

But as I understand it, we have to do it for us
Many years back, when I was trying to get my xh back, the coach told me
to try different things and see if anything I did brought XH closer
some things seem to make the relationship smoother ..but in my situation we never reconciled

some things that seemed to help keep the relationship stay smooth were:

not initiating contact
making plans and doing things for me on my own
not asking questions or how he felt about the relationship
being very validating and supportive of his choices and needs
listening without venting back
being available when he chose to visit the kids or felt like talking
not critizing his decision to leave

you are very new at this
great that you went to counseling
try to take care of yourself

many more things you can do for yourself
make sure you eat, rest ,pray
sleep exercise read meditate

vent on the board
women's support groups are good
it helps to be able to talk it out with there women especially those who have travelled the road and many have

good luck
peace