Good luck mattdad, I hope things work out for you and her. Don't try to do it alone or too fast, many times these things need professional help to navigate through the pain so both of you can move forward in your M. If this is the second time she has cheated she may need counseling also to work through the problems she has. And ignore anything OM is saying, not like you can trust a man who is willing to have sex with a M woman anyway. Get the proof you need to know shes serious about working through this and then get help.
Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be
