Not selfish at all and don't assume you know what she wants, she may not even know right now. Again, you both have your paths and who knows where they lead. Whos to say DB'ing wont still lead you to that future together where your both happy and this is just whats needed right now.

We don't know how the future will turn out. The best possible future for each of you may be divorced. It may also end up that the best future is together and you can only see a sliver of the path that leads to it.

Either way things are going to be better than they were a year ago, so keep doing what you want and see how it plays out.

Life has a way of surprising us if we let it.

Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be