Asked for the D

[dwh15]

Well, my suspicion happened, today I found a lot of pictures of W and OM, she claims he likes her and they are friends and that he is "NICE", she mentioned I myself will also find friends and which is "Ok".

Very heart broken with the evidence, I knew since BD that he had something to do with it.

BD happened after she went to his gym.
Caught her at his place cause she was going to rent a room there when we were separating.
She is still in his class
Joined another class that he is also in
She denies it. Claims by me questioning her about the pictures that I haven't changed.

That I need to let her be and this will continue because they are friends.

That it validates her decision to leave.

WOW...

That [censored] man, but really, you can't be too surprised by this. From what I've been reading, women for the most part never walk out of a stable R until they have something else they consider better already lined up. Sorry you had to find out so late in the game, but it doesn't change anything. She's obviously been seeing him for a while, and will continue. The ironic thing is that now that it's out in the open, chances are that it falls apart sooner than it might have otherwise. Affairs cannot live under broad daylight.

But you already planned for and asked for the D. Time to let your WW live the life she chose and you make an even better one for yourself. I think you made the right choice too. I'm 6 months out from BD, with my own WW having moved straight from me into OM's house. I've giving it a year, then doing same as you and filing. I mean, how long do you let this kind of thing drag out? At some point, you need to reclaim your dignity and self-respect. We are already being 100x more patient than most men would have been in these situations. I've known people who ran straight to an attorney and filed within a week of discovering an A. Usually, it's a deal breaker, period.

You gave it your best, and truly stood for your M and your vows. Bravo to you sir. Your WW doesn't deserve you, and I really hope you find a future Mrs. who truly loves and cherishes you.