I understand that confusion. We make all these crazy improvements in our lives and it doesn't seem to make a difference(or maybe it does and we just don't see it). Even when were interacting and communicating better than we have in years of M things continue down the path of D.
A point my IC had to drive in during my last session(that we went over in the very beginning early this year) is that this isn't about us(we hear that all the time but I don't think we really hear it all the time). Its not about what they feel for us, if there attracted to us, or even if they love us. It may just be 100% about them and if we accept that it can help set us free.
Just keep telling yourself this is about her journey and nothing more. You have your own to worry about anyway.
Stay strong PP, keep moving forward.
Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be