Got it.

Goals for me:

be warm, kind and cheerful
show appreciation verbally
no pursuing for physical affection or time spent together
cheerful and accepting if he initiates affection or time spent together

How will I know it is working:

he asks to spend time with me
he asks me questions about my day or how I am feeling
he initiates physical affection or sex
he spends evenings in the same room as me two or three times in a week

How does that sound?