as_it_is - my adventure continues (part 4)

[asitis]

It looks to be a very useful book, at least in places. There are still a lot of things one can't apply if the S doesn't want to work on the R. It also paints a somewhat bleak picture for Ms in the state ours our in. But, it makes one realize that getting to the point where you have stopped triggering the association of you with anger & pain, where things are friendly (not friends yet, but maybe), that if given enough time, the associations can shift out of Negative Sentiment Override.

It isn't easy wo/ good MC, but that tool has been taken out of most of our hands by our Ss. Giving calm, and friendly, and hoping for a bit of actual friendship, and time is what seems to be the conclusion of what I've looked at in the book so far.

The reason the M history gets rewritten is the cognitive dissonance between the memory and the current feeling state. The brain rewires to make the focus of the memory connect to the current feeling state. Spend a long enough time in that negative state, and the memories that are dredged up get reassigned. It is probably the reason why you shouldn't bring up the good times to S at this stage. You are just offering those memories up to be recatagorized. Let them be until maybe the current feeling state alters. Then when they are accessed, they will be seen more positively. At least that's my take on it.