So, surprisingly after the lunch time shenanigans and me ignoring her stab at round 2 later in the day, XF was fairly pleasant tonight on the phone. She called to say goodnight to S4. She asked to talk to me so I chugged a smoothie and tightened up my seat belt. She never brought up anything about our spat. It was all logistics for S4 and scheduling but I was very surprised that she wasn't distant/angry/bitter/hostile/spewing all rolled into one! Maybe just pretending? Either way, it doesn't matter. What's done is done, all I can do is move forward.
Me 34, XF 27 Many years together Son 4 Engaged Not engaged Many false starts by XF 7/16 new girlfriend comes into my life 2/17 girlfriend moves in my home
I wake up this morning and have a weird feeling, I miss XF, I do. But the feelings I have towards her may be shifting? In my mind I honestly think that there has been too much damage done. I am feeling more like co parenting is going to be the best route to take? I'm not saying I wouldn't try to R if the chance ever arose, but that doesn't seem to be my focus after yesterday...
Ok, I'm rambling again so I'll get going haha
Me 34, XF 27 Many years together Son 4 Engaged Not engaged Many false starts by XF 7/16 new girlfriend comes into my life 2/17 girlfriend moves in my home
No problem buddy, saw it and didn't know how else to get your attention... Friend in need alert!!! Haha
Me 34, XF 27 Many years together Son 4 Engaged Not engaged Many false starts by XF 7/16 new girlfriend comes into my life 2/17 girlfriend moves in my home
And e-mails got signed love, name; then name; then initial; then nothing. I sometimes get an initial at times, so I guess that is progress or something.
It is likely an attempt to discourage pursuit by distancing. If I'm rude you will stop chasing and give me the space I want.
Me: 50 W:43 S6, S3 M: 12 yrs. T: 17 M is bad & Not happy Bomb Mar '14 S 5 Feb '15 D Bomb 13 Apr '15 (but "no hurry") DB Coach May '15 Wants proceed on D Aug '15 Starting 1-on-1 negotiations Sept '15
I just want to say I have the same experience with emails and texts. And all of it, the roller coaster ride, all of it. I also am thinking of throwing in the towel but I won't. Right now it is more of a fantasy, a way of thinking "there is a way out of this" but its not the way out that I really want. But I can see myself reaching that point and that is huge for me.
Nobody can live like this forever.
Glad your S is ok, my boys have asthma too and we've spent many nights in the ER so I know how scary that can be.
Today was a little weird... XF called twice within an hour, first while she was walking out of work, then about a half hour later. Both times kinda cheery, asked the same questions about swapping S4 tonight both times. Nothing else really discussed it was just different that she called, let alone twice. Most S4 things are discussed via text or in person. A few texts were mixed in between calls as well as after the second one. Also weird? I did do her a favor and take S4 directly to her apartment, she said she had dinner cooking for them. When I arrived there she was very pleasant and wanted to chit chat small talk... After about 10 minutes I politely excused myself and scratched my head the whole ride home.
Is this the same person who vomited spew all over me yesterday to the point I snapped?
Me 34, XF 27 Many years together Son 4 Engaged Not engaged Many false starts by XF 7/16 new girlfriend comes into my life 2/17 girlfriend moves in my home
I knew about this but it just clicked. This afternoon I will have to be at my best, going to be with XF for about 3 hours. S4 has a few doctors appointments that we are both going to be at. Consultations for a few different specialists...
This could be good or bad, depends how XF handles herself? I'm planning on being very polite but not overly friendly.
Me 34, XF 27 Many years together Son 4 Engaged Not engaged Many false starts by XF 7/16 new girlfriend comes into my life 2/17 girlfriend moves in my home
