I am about to reach out to my wife, probably via text, to try and establish a way to interact with each other because every time she feels like it or things don't go her way she interjects on my conversation with my boys and tell me not to speak them about this or that. For example, last night I asked my 9 year old where my 2 year was and he said he was sleeping. I told him to go and check him to see if he was doing fine. Wife comes on the phone and says don't put that on Son cause he doesn't need any pressure like that. I ask what the problem was and that was a simple thing to do. I told her that she was not going to tell me what to speak to my kids about and that I am their father.
I feel all of this is her own and about her insecurities. It's childish. I told her so and she hung up. I can't help her and she knows the door is open right now, but I have a feeling she is trying to be strong and also follow her mother's advice and since her mom was a single parent that "said" she did her herself she can too. We good for her mother, but wife doesn't have to look up to or listen to a woman who hates men with a passion and has her life problems to do with. But now she has a partner in crime to be miserable with.
PP mentioned earlier that living with my won't last too long and I agree. Wife will have to grow up and be a woman on her own to really see how life is, but she flew the coop from living to me to mamaland. It's been less than a month, but we shall see.
In the mean time, shall I tell my wife that I think she does take care of the kids as best she can so that she doesn't have to be so defensive to me so shall I just stand my ground and tell those are my kids and I can relatively speak to them about what I want when I want...given it's not about wife and me breaking up and what have you (not about the situation, they don't need to know)?
