Have i been making mistakes too long part 5

[tkdmme]

So my family reunion is this weekend in TN. This is about 4 hours away. Me and the kids are going. I told my wife a few weeks back that I would like her to come as well. She declined and said that it would make her uncomfortable to be around my family. His is my W of 16 years who has been a big part of my family. I have a huge family in TN and we used to go there 4 or 5 times a year. She has always loved my family and they love her. I don't understand why she isn't willing to go. I get that she doesn't want to be around me but why would she not want to see my family. If for no other reason than for our kids.

My D12 asked me last night if mom was going with us. I told her no. She didn't ask but I could see on her face she wanted to know why.

This has really hurt me. My father is sick with cancer and he has been great to her. always helped us when we needed help.

It is going to be difficult explaining why my W is not with me to the extended family. My parents know what is going on but the rest of the family does not. What do I tell the kids when they ask why mom is not coming? What do I tell the family when they ask where she is?

Im looking forward to seeing my family but im sick that she will not come.

Im wondering if I should send my W an email telling her how much this bothers me. Is this a good idea?