That's true in a sense, but the best thing I think I'm doing is to stop focusing on fixing the M, and focus on myself. Just really give her the space she clearly wants, allow her to have no real reason to perceive me as threatening, limit the interactions sharply so that there are just a few pleasant interactions, not daily or even multiple contacts a day, even if she seems to be initiating some. So, stopping trying to fix the M is the best way it seems to actually stand a chance to possible fix the M down the road. It is also, just a lot less stressful and let's me focus on re-building my life.
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I like this As, it's the same thing only in a much different focus. The more you work on you, the more you can do for your M when the time is right. And the more space you'll give your W. As you said in an earlier post, she still has access to you, lots of it. That's not space and separation.
Keep building yourself As, do all of the things simply to turn yourself into the man you know you can be and let the rest unfold as it will.
I have complete faith in your ability to focus on a project or task and this seems like a really good one.
Thanks for your words tonight as well, they were a big help to me.
Big hug,
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M 39 W 36 T5 M3 BD - 1/15 Separated - Same Day Served 9/15 D finalized 6/17
