as_it_is - my adventure continues (part 4)

[asitis]

Asitis warm hugs from ME to you I just thought I would check in on your sitch having a stubborn partner does not make things any easier but my thoughts are you have to keep that open mind

When you say have not explored every option I too can relate fully to this my w will not go to counselling she has checked out she has given up....well my thoughts are when everything is done and dusted I need to be able to say to myself and possibly my children I tried Everything to keep us all together if I can do this then I will sleep better.

Take care

Ghost

That's true in a sense, but the best thing I think I'm doing is to stop focusing on fixing the M, and focus on myself. Just really give her the space she clearly wants, allow her to have no real reason to perceive me as threatening, limit the interactions sharply so that there are just a few pleasant interactions, not daily or even multiple contacts a day, even if she seems to be initiating some. So, stopping trying to fix the M is the best way it seems to actually stand a chance to possible fix the M down the road. It is also, just a lot less stressful and let's me focus on re-building my life.

I know you seem really reluctant to stop trying to fix things, or find that trick that we are overlooking, but it really does work better to let go a lot. Try it. If it doesn't work, you try something else. You get time to experiment a bit before the clock strikes midnight.