CattleKid: You are right at the beginning of your M and decisions you take now will have a bigger impact on your H's life (and hence your life) than you can ever imagine. The SSM book has two important messages. "What you are doing now is not working so DO THE OPPOSITE" and “JUST DO IT” Sorry to shout but they are just soooo important. I’m speaking now as an HD husband with 22 years of SSM experience. You must look upon sex as you would the laundry – you don’t want to do it but you know you have to. If you “just do it” say twice a week, your husband will feel like a million dollars and in return he will treat you better than in your wildest dreams. I predict that after a while you will start to enjoy it too because it will no longer be such a big deal. The alternative if you choose to do nothing is that your husband will think about sex 100% of the time, he will argue about it with you constantly, will spend many sleepless nights feeling utterly rejected and will look at every woman he passes in the street and wonder what life would be like with her… Eventually he could meet someone on the same wavelength as himself and you will find yourself buying a copy of Divorce Busting. You are lucky that you are in the early stages, have taken the initiative to read SSM and have the opportunity to create a great marriage and life for yourself. I wish you all the best for the future, SD
