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I asked W to give me space, but when i do see her i continue to fight over the A, and if I'm honest I am attacking her. I


You are asking her for space? Is she pursuing you? Do you feel smothered by her?

In your posts, you sound as though you believe she's in an A and hasn't ended contact with OM. Has there ever been any type of A from either of you?

Can you give more information about how you bring up the subject of an A? What is her attitude when this happens?

If you were to discover she lied and is still contacting OM, would it be a deal breaker for you?

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!