So...I started reading SSM last week on the advice of some of the folks from a couple of the Yahoo groups to which I am subscribed. I read the first two chapters and I am hooked. I am the LD spouse to a T. As this is the first book I have ever read on this topic that directly speaks to me and my situation, I plan on reading the rest and putting it to work.
However, I have a question. How can I get past DH's comments regarding sex? For example, tonight I was cleaning the kitchen after dinner and said to DH..."I have come to a conclusion..." then paused at which time he said "that you don't want to have sex anymore". I let the comment go instead of starting a raging arguement (which I would have done in the past) and finished my comment (which had nothing to do with sex or our relationship).
This is completely typical of comments that DH makes out of the blue. We can be having a talk about anything and he will turn it into something about how I dislike sex, how come we never have sex anymore etc etc.
We tried a sex therapist last summer, it did not help. Short of sharing the book with him, which I am loathe to do at this point because I do not yet have a plan in place, is there anything I can do when he shoots another one of his verbal arrows towards me?
