Jim0987 #15 - Further on up the road

[jim0987]

I'd love to try Gan's schedule. That's one well travelled lady.

OK so to put this drink with OM thing to bed. It was never a social thing for me it was always a functional thing. The gesture is more important than the actuality, I want to defuse things before there is an issue.

In reality I didn't/don't expect him to take me up on it and even if he did he certainly wouldn't admit the things i really want to know about him (like does he have a criminal record).

By making the offer and making sure he knows I've made the offer, I've extended a small olive branch that says from the outset I'm prepared to work with him for as long as he is in my kids life and does them no harm. That's my interpretation anyway.

He will never replace me as 'daddy' and so I have no reason to feel threatened by him, and therefore no reason to be difficult or cold toward him.

Don't get me wrong I have no wish to be mates with him and the moment he is out of my kids life he can rot in a hole for all I care but until that point comes, I will be courteous and accepting because anything else does me and my kids no good in the long run.

And having just typed all of that I nowI realise an element of it was a bit primeval alpha posturing. Hmmmm.......