We were married in every sense but on paper... Lived together 6 years, shared everything about life, our son, a house, cars in both names, all that stuff.
Understood. There is something about having that on paper though. Most states have some kind of "cooling off period" after the divorce action is filed that could be as much as a year. So it's kinda hard to close that door before thats finalized. But in your case, when she walks out of the door, theres really nothing legally binding you together.
But on an emotional level, youre right....theres really pretty much no difference.
Today has been a very up and down day so far. Started out in a funk, got better, but now feeling down again? Stupid roller coaster is gonna make me dizzy today...
Me 34, XF 27 Many years together Son 4 Engaged Not engaged Many false starts by XF 7/16 new girlfriend comes into my life 2/17 girlfriend moves in my home
Backslide alert! I recieved a message from XF "what gives you the right to tell people they can't talk to me".
I responded, pardon me?
To which she started going nuts through text messages accusing me of telling people they can't talk to her and I'm trying to control her life. It just kept coming.
In a moment of weakness, I responded "is fantasy land crumbling? Can you finally see all the damage you have done? You threw away 7 years of both our lives, I hope you're happy".
That did not go well, in the end of the conversation I actually said that I was done. There's not a bridge left to repair, it's been completely burned...
I have mixed emotions on this right now. In a way I feel relived, but in a big way I feel like I failed at DBing. I feel like I may have just broke the camels back?
I know better and let my stupid emotions type my responses instead of my brain!
Me 34, XF 27 Many years together Son 4 Engaged Not engaged Many false starts by XF 7/16 new girlfriend comes into my life 2/17 girlfriend moves in my home
Aw man. Its so hard, because we want to show the S all of the damage theyve caused and all of the pain they have inflicted. We want them to empathize back with us. But, unfortunately, they just arent at that point. They just dont care.
So I dont think you broke any camels with what you wrote and this argument, because I dont think shes really listening anyway. I do suspect that you already regret these words, because it isnt what you really want. So, what do we do? Dust yourself off, learn from your mistakes, and try to do better tomorrow.
I know buddy, it's tough! At the end of the day I am only human and I can only take so much... I do regret everything I said, I should have ignored the first message because nothing good could have come from any response.
The way this happened I honestly feel like throwing in the towel. As a person I don't know how much more of this I can take? Every time I feel as if I'm on the right track, doing everything right and saying the right things. BOOM, in my face!
Me 34, XF 27 Many years together Son 4 Engaged Not engaged Many false starts by XF 7/16 new girlfriend comes into my life 2/17 girlfriend moves in my home
I don't know man, I feel like I'm back at day one... It's just too much
Me 34, XF 27 Many years together Son 4 Engaged Not engaged Many false starts by XF 7/16 new girlfriend comes into my life 2/17 girlfriend moves in my home
I don't know man, I feel like I'm back at day one... It's just too much
Trust me. I know that feeling all too well. W had the kids meet OM earlier this week. Our D isnt finalized for months, but she felt this was appropriate for them. Shes gung ho on starting a new family without me. I was a wreck all morning Monday. It felt like I was hit by the same bomb that hit before.
But theres nowhere to go but forward. You cant stop a roller coaster ride halfway through no matter how much youre crying or vomiting or whatever....it goes until you pull back into the station. And thats the same here. There si no throwing in the towel, because theres not really any difference. Whether youre trying to heal from the damage, theres only one path and this is it.
No matter what you try - drugs, alcohol, women, whatever - the hurt is still there. Unfortunately, theres no getting around facing it. Its painful. Its exhausting. Its sad. Its lonely. But it is what is. And we will all get to the other side.
Thanks azz, I know I can't get off this ride. But it sure does sound good... I know this is very fresh, like under 2 hours, but what I feel at this point is nothing. No desire to continue down this path. No desire for XF. I just feel like a hollow shell of myself. Tomorrow is a new day, I will have to make the best of it because I think today went to [censored].
Me 34, XF 27 Many years together Son 4 Engaged Not engaged Many false starts by XF 7/16 new girlfriend comes into my life 2/17 girlfriend moves in my home
Well she came back and tried for round two at break time. I didn't even respond
Me 34, XF 27 Many years together Son 4 Engaged Not engaged Many false starts by XF 7/16 new girlfriend comes into my life 2/17 girlfriend moves in my home
