Thanks Sandi... I missed your response earlier. I agree with everything you say there. I guess I was expecting a little more respect compared to just an ex-boyfriend?? Actually I am not really sure. In my head, we are married, there should be an effort to save things. That is a very good question now that you raise it though, why would it be any different, I guess it would not.
"best husband' does bother me because it is obviously not true and yet she says it over and over. I agree with your advice and that is what I am doing. I have been through it before so I have lots of practice... made some very painful mistakes in the past. The only time she does come back is when I completely go silent.
I do not *think* she has has an affair before but am not 100% sure of course. We were together all the time minus work.
I really appreciate your advice in my situation... I think you have some valuable insight that I could use.
