I have some doubts about how promptly he will follow up on the agreement to get himself into individual counseling. I have some big doubts about the boundaries with women. He has a female roommate now. I have told him it is unacceptable to me and I hate it. I am 100% sure that there is nothing sexual nor romantic between them. Yet. But that's a very dangerous situation, it is a slippery slope. I don't care that they are not interested in each other, and that she is dating someone else. It's just no good. It makes me very very nervous.
Then you should absolutely insist on this. Maybe the new MC can help you with stressing how imperative this is? If your husband thinks THIS is the type of thing that constitutes "badgering," I'd say that's a big red flag. This is either a basic core boundary with you or it's not.
I like all of your joint stipulations -- they sound very mature and healthy!
