I would love some feedback from others if anyone has it. I am a bit torn to be honest. My wife is "trying" but she still is not obliging by my parameters. She needs to send the NC letter but would rather let it die on the vine. Am I crazy to think that this could work out without following the steps?
No, you're not crazy at all. All of us classic conflict-avoiders have that as our first instinct (I did!). We'd also be WRONG.
Yes, you should enforce your own core boundaries here. I think if you don't, you'll regret it. Besides, isn't it precisely that strong stance that has re-attracted her to you to begin with?
If it's "a" the right thing for you to do, and "b" simultaneously effective, isn't your course of action clear here?
